Monday, March 24

How to overcome stress? - A beautiful perspective towards problems.

It doesn't hurt. No, accept it. It hurts. 

I often ask myself, how to cope up with different things in life and every time I get a different answer.
There are lot many things going around to handle. The competition in the society is increasing at a pace faster than talent. In this rat race, it becomes inevitable to close your eyes and have a peaceful sleep. All your mind wanders around, is the mediocrity of your being, of your talents or the heaps of your failures. It is frustrating and probably that's the same reason you are here, reading this.
Here I am listing some points which help me cope up with everything on daily basis.

  1. Talk to Yourself - You are the one facing the problem. The pain is being inflicted on you. You know how much it pains. You know things about your problems that no one will ever know. Only you know what you have left behind in order to stand where you are standing now. Only you know your sacrifices. If the problems are with you, always remember, the solutions are also with you. And who else better than yourself, can teach you that?
  2. Go deep down to your problems - One thing which significantly helps me to reduce the tension and eventually solve problem is this technique. There is no point crying over the spilt milk. Things once done can't be undone. You need to realize some facts in order to find their solutions. No, I am not talking about moving on. Instead, I am against it. There is a saying, Cry as much as you can for the pain inflicted on you, but make sure, once you stop crying, you never cry for the same reason again. Yes exactly, If you go deep down to your problems, sure as hell, it will hurt you. Maybe way more than it did previously. But your unanswered questions will surely be answered.
  3. Investigate your pain - What are the exact reasons of your pain? Ever pondered on that? What is the reason it's hurting you? 10 years from now, will they still matter? Or make it 5. Will the things you are crying for, will hold a significant place in your life? Or probably, are they worth crying for?
    Do ask these questions to yourself, because when you get their answers, you ll realize how beautifully you were fooling yourself.
  4. Divert yourself until its the right time - Certain times in life, you step into situations which are too hard to be solved, or too complex to be understood. The best you can do in those times is to get away from all the negativity to let your positive thoughts flow. How to do that? Do something which you like. Watch some comedy videos. Or draw, dance, sing or whatever you are good at.
    Because, not only it gives you confidence by doing things you are good at but it also allows you to see your life through a different perspective.
  5. Talk to someone - There is always a person who wants the best for you, be it your father, your mother, your sister, your brother, your best friend, anyone or probably everyone above. You need to share your heart out, not only to talk to them about your sorrows but also to lighten the weight you have been carrying for so long. They may not give you the best advice, but it always feels good to know that you aren't alone. That somebody is there to stand with you. That somebody has faith in you, and hopes best for you.
    Do read the note at the end of this article.
  6. Let it go - And even after talking to yourself, going deep into your problems, investigating your pain, diverting your mind, or talking to someone doesn't help, then Let it go, mate. Many a times in life, we lose things. When we are a child, we cry for broken toys, when we grow up, we cry for broken dreams, and when we are finally dying, we itself cry for breaking up this life. So let it go, there are too many things in this life to be happy about. There is always a person who wants to see you happy, and if you are lucky, there are two, three and many. Learn to let go, at the end, we will die with nothing to ourselves, what we do in this world, would ultimately not matter, at least to us from above.

That is all mate, be happy. It is a short beautiful life. No need to take too much tension. I agree that there is lot of competition in this world, but at the end of the day, it all comes down to how better you have been than one you were yesterday :)

Tanishq Sharma

Many a times we hide our pain, sorrow and tears somewhere deep down within us, somewhere so deep that we eventually forget about it. That things, starts to fill us with bitterness from inside. To kill us, a slow poison. It happens because many a times, you don't have someone to talk to. At Captive Of Thoughts, We do not want anyone to go through this, we are here listening to you. To your problems. We do not want to know your name, it is absolutely okay if you want to keep yourself anonymous and just share your pain with us. Because, believe us, when we say we are listening, cause we are. Come - Talk to us (Keep on this to tell us your problems, we will keep it anonymous.)

Saturday, March 22

Belief, Hope and Faith

Belief. It is the strongest word found in the dictionary. The strongest weapon mankind has ever had, will ever have. The problem is just that, no one sees the potential in it. Whole regimes can fall, if we just believe.

Well, I must say, people did believed once upon a time, although it is lost now. This belief led rise to superstitions. Some may argue that superstitions are bad for the progress of the society while some would say that superstitions are their whole life. Well, all of them are actually half right. The need of belief in one’s life cannot be completely eradicated and thus it is right, while on the other hand, one cannot let these blind superstitions dictate their life and thus this is also correct. The Man, is filled with imperfection. You give him something good, he will use it to such an extent that it will no longer be good. Man, the word Evil explained in one word. The same thing happened with superstitions.

There is this little weird thing I have got going. En route to my school every day I see this advertising hoarding. Nothing great about it, just a normal advertisement, but every day I make it a point to see the hoarding. I believe that seeing this hoarding will make my day go well and by chance if I miss it, it will go bad. Now you must be thinking that what is the connection between my life and the hoarding? There’s none, but the belief that I’m going to having a nice day is then planted in my mind. The correct words here are Hope and Faith. Seeing the hoarding makes me stop thinking about the day. Everyday questions arise in one’s mind about how their day’s going to be, will it be nice? Would something bad happen to me? So many questions but no answers. This leads to stress and the day is spoilt anyways.

I’m an atheist but have no ill feelings towards people who follow religions. I just believe that the concept of God was created so that people will have Hope and Faith in their lives. So that they don’t have to worry about… well worry. When you believe in God, you believe that He will be there to support you during your hard times and will spin your lives. We just have to do one thing, enjoy. Over time, this concept remained intact but the point of view changed. Man started worrying that his life was placed in someone else’s hand. Fate has its own funny way, the belief of God was so because Man should not worry, but after some time it was the cause of Man’s worry. Like everything over time becomes obsolete and useless, so has this concept. It has created rifts between men that nothing else could do it. And I for once understand this living in the diversity of India.

I’m not saying that Man should stop believing in God, but he should at least change his perspective. Rather than spending lakh’s of money on temples of God, one should spend it on the betterment of the less fortunate.

I’m sure that no will change even reading this because we have and always will fear the God we are meant to love.

- Aashish Nehete

Note : This post is written by Aashish Nehete of Just Emotions as a guest post under Captive Of Thoughts.

Sunday, March 2

Looking back in his eyes, She knew he wasn't lying - Some stories are better left incomplete...

He was standing at the altar of pains and sorrows. Had to choose between the two. They both meant the same. The life, had somehow been the description of sadness and shallowness. In every word to define the meaning of life, there seemed only another sigh. There was darkness, or it would be more appropriate if I say, there was no light. There were tracks of life of which he had to follow, but there was no fuel to carry on. There were skies open enough to fly, but no platform to take off. The nights as black as the short duration before the dawn, the only difference being, that there were no dawns.

The silence cried loudly, the frail looking person glanced over a frailer reflection in the mirror.
The eyes stared back from the mirror, they seemed to convey a message. They seemed to convey stories of lost battle, of battle which they never fought but the scars as fresh as the dawn which never arrived. They told him to be strong, to with-hold the ground he was standing. There seemed no might to stand at the ground which was no more below him. 

As he engrossed more in the reflection, he could sense those million tears which ran across his cheeks. He could see the spots they left and the image they created when they ran with proud all the way from his eyes to somewhere in land beneath, the same land, which was no more below him.

He forced shut his eyes only to make things worse. The murk after closing his eyes was way more suffocating than the one he saw before the shutters were down. He traveled the minutes, seconds and moments he had lived in last couple of months and years which now seemed ages old. Those months had transformed into years and those years in those never ending decades. The decades too, seemed a span way more than ten years. 

As he traveled along the time, he saw his mistakes, and regrets to the situations which still chokes his ability to breath, with guilt of every decision he took. He can see the seed of pain bow in the gardens of his life. He can witness how he stumbled upon his every step and how, with every step came distances which were hard to be measured by scales. He could hear the howls, the mighty shouts and observe his thoughts diminishing with every destroyed expectation. There were feelings which he did not express, some words which were always there inside of him and wanted to come out. There were expressions he wanted to put in statements, and the statements which changed his expressions.

There were million questions but the only answer was dull silence which engrossed with it, the pains of past, the scars which seemed un-healed even as the time progressed. He opened his eyes but it didn't make any difference, his vision was as empty as the thoughts which arrived when he closed his eyes. There were mistakes he made, and his mind was too numb to count them. All he could perceive, was the moment it all started…

He remembered the date well, 16th August 2013. The date which marked the beginning of his end.
Rains had passed, but it was teary not just in the skies but also in the eyes of two souls who had compromised their love. The skies were getting clear, but it seemed as the clouds of darkness had halted in their lives. 

To blame one would be an insult to love they shared, they cared, they adored. He could remember how beautifully they held hands strengthening each other. He could remember how their hugs removed the negativity in their lives. He remembered every little smile they shared, every little sunshine which enlightened their whole day. He could not let her go, she was his everything. She didn't want him to leave her, he was her everything. There were tears when they separated, there were cries, there were shouts, explanations which were unheard and a mind which conceived only the struggle they had gone through.

Came in his life when everything was worse than hell, she gave him a heaven. Never in their dreams had they thought, that a time would come when they won’t be together. But in their hearts stood a belief, a belief strong enough to defy the problems and the situations causing their distance.

It was an ordinary day. Till date, he could not find a reason why she left him, why they grew apart. Was the love over or they did not care about love anymore? They went through some harsh times, but it was never meant to be this way. They always knew that they would come back from the dark times together, that no matter what the condition was, they could make everything better until unless they were together but Alas!, they were not together. He did not leave her, she didn't leave him, but the love had left them or they had hidden it somewhere deep inside.

It doesn't happen in real life what happened to them. They remained in contact even after they grew apart, they expected the love even when they didn't commit.She still refreshed and charmed his life like no other can. He could still make her blush like a beautiful rose shining in the light of sunlight, like the beautiful first rays of the morning.

Their eyes conveyed things which their words could not.
They met for the last time, to decide onto their future, but where did they know that it was the start to their new journey. They met casually, he asked her how she was. There was no reply, there couldn't be. He knew she was not well, she never was without him. She didn't ask back, because she already knew the answer.

They had met to clarify things, but it seemed a whole new lesson was about to start. She looked him in the eyes, wide and clear, conveying the pain he had given her. He looked back with the promise that he won’t be doing that again. With a promise that he will protect her from every sorrow she encounters.
She didn't wanted to fall weak, she declined him. He begged her for the love, which they both knew was required to sustain them in this world. They both knew how beautiful their journey was, and without each other, there was no journey at all. But, she didn't wanted to fall weak.

He held her hand while they spoke nothing. He wanted to tell her, that he would be their holding her in her ups and downs of life. He went close to her, probably to tell her that he never leave her alone again. He hugged her tightly and proofed her, how much he needed his soul back.

Looking back in his eyes, she knew he was not lying.

And since he was standing at the altar of pains and sorrow, he chose immortality..

- Tanishq Sharma

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