Some Questions are Unanswered, Some decisions are without conclusions and some feelings are Indispensable.
Talking on a very high note today, Is Death an ending to the suffering of an individual or a burdened future to those related to the individual?
Fortunately or Unfortunately, They' re both.
I cannot have a generalized say in the following thing but I can put forth my own philosophy of life, which is in every and any way, My way of thinking.
Life and Death are the two faces of the same coins, It is this cycle which keeps on repeating to produce generations after generations. These are the truths and lies of life. Life is a beautiful lie while Death is an ugly truth.
But leave that stuff aside, lets escape into genuineness? to realism?
Do this cycle of universe abound those indispensable feelings of those close to the dead person? Can something replace the irreversible loss of a person?
Can there be any compensate for the loss? No. A loss is a loss. After this, no matter how many tears you cry or how many prayers you pray, there wont be any returning. This is the harsh truth about life, Universally for each and every generation, Individual.
It would have been better if R.I.P would have stood for "Return If Possible". :)
Those who die, may stabilize but those who are left behind are set to the agony for the rest of the life, but considering it on a high and deep note, does life stop? Does those breaths are mere puppets now?
Losing a close person is like losing a part of yourself. Yes, it hurts, it does but it does not stop you from living. You may lose the interest in Life, but surely not the life. There is lot more life left and if we stop ourselves completely for the grief of others, then my dear friend, This world will never progress.
The loss is irreversible, and yes that fact itself gives us a strong reason to move on and make our lives better.
So I was discussing this topic with one of my mates, and what she got to say in the matter was...
" Yes, The loss of loved and dear ones hurt a lot, and it is completely true that we should not forget them, but instead we should grasp their memories within us and fight back to prove that we are stronger and still fighting this battle called life." #Arunima Patni.
Indeed true, Remember, the world does not stop for your grief.
Quoting George Elliot I would say, " Our Dead are never Dead to us, until we have forgotten them"
There are gains and losses in life, each one faces it one day, all you gotta do is to be strong to lose or to gain in life. At each step of life, you make new bonding and forget the old. There are meeting and then separations only to meet again.
Allow me to narrate you one of my own incident of life which reflected my views on this topic.
I was being trained for a personality pageant competition, and the practices were held on regular basis. The session consisted of Introduction followed by Questioning round.
It was my turn, I had finished introducing myself and it was the time for those questions. The questions were asked to judge our views, thoughts and to judge our ability to take decisions in certain situations in life.
My mentor did not waste any time in asking questions regarding basic philosophy, he stood up asking me one single question. "So Tanishq, Let me ask you a very fine simple yet a sensitive question", "What if the Day you are finally getting a job interview , is the Day you have your father's funeral, and you could go only at one place, which one would you choose?"
Yes the Question was a sensitive one where one would flow into feelings, and that is no wrong.
"Sir, I would choose to attend my Job Interview, Not because I don't feel or had bondage with my father but because if I don't attend this Interview, His teachings, Hard Work on me would be In Vain. And Probably No Father would like to be burned from the hands of a son who has wasted his time, money and hard work!"
Oh yes, I had tears as i finished that sentence but that is how life is. I did not wait there to see whether my answer has appealed to him, because it was something I did not utter to please my mentor or anyone else. They were my feelings, thoughts.
The appeal-ness was already lost in the applause by the audience. Yes, That is How life Works.
If we stop for the grief of a person, then probably we will lose more than just that person.
Be strong, This IS a game of Gain And Loss.
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